A Moment in My Life – Wednesday, November 4, 2020
A while back, I asked what happens when we die and go to heaven and reunite with our spouse, who departed from this earth before we did, and we ended up remarrying someone else. I really wanted to know. This whole death and the afterlife are a mystery to me. I have regrets that I can never remedy. I have made peace, but I am still curious.
During the last three weeks of Mark’s life, Mark was often having a conversation with an invisible person. I kept asking him, “Are you talking to me?” and he answered, no. I heard him mumbling often, but when I asked, “Are you talking in your sleep?” he would answer, no. He said he was talking to the people who kept talking to him. I asked him what people—he said he didn’t know who they were, but they kept talking to him.
A part of me knew what that meant, but I trusted in God to deliver Mark from his illness and felt that I was a hypocrite if I acknowledged my suspicions. Another part of me refused to accept the obvious that Mark was getting visits from spirits because his end date was nearing.
I regret that I didn’t accept that reality. Had I embraced it, I could have learned through Mark’s experiences, and I would have my questions answered. My mother went through a similar spirit visitation period before she passed. Due to a language barrier and my mother’s troubled mind, I couldn’t have a conversation with her about her experiences, but I could have, had I not been in denial, with Mark. Perhaps, I could have learned the answer to my question about what happens when we reunite in heaven, but I didn’t ask. It is neither here nor there.
My eyes opened yesterday during my Bible reading when this verse popped out at me. In Matthew 22:29, it says, “At the resurrection, people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” This means that God created marriage so that we would have companionship and so that we could procreate, but once we are in heaven, we won’t have the same needs as we do while living on this earth. In heaven, we won’t need one specific companion because we will be reconciled to God and each other, which will complete God’s plan for us.
I was looking forward to reuniting with Mark when I get to heaven, but I know God has a plan for all of us and that His plans will be for our good. As long as I will get to be with Mark in heaven, even if it doesn’t mean as his wife, I can accept that. I trust God, and I know everything will work out perfectly when the time comes. In the meantime, I am grateful that God left instructions on how His master plan works. We just have to look in the Word.